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How To Get Your Child to Listen!


I am a father of a 6 year old son and a 9 year old daughter and I know how difficult it can get sometimes to get your kids attention or make them listen… watch the video for 3 techniques.

These techniques are very simple yet effective if applied correctly with patience, belief and faith.

I have observed parents using incorrect techniques, getting frustrated with the results and adding more stress to their already busy life. I want to help…

Leave me a comment or question below the video and share how you deal with this challenge.
Also share this video with other parents so it may help them get their child’s attention.

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We get a lot of questions from parents that how do I make my child listen to me.

The moment we talk to them they either tune out or leave or ask us to come to the point. It
makes us go crazy.

I can totally relate, because I am a parent too! I know how it feels when you are yelling and they give you a deaf ear or 'talk to my hand' or are busy on television or their phones.

Haven't you noticed that the kids get excited when you ask them a movie? Because they are practicing selective listening, selectively avoiding. They identify your patterns and want to avoid listening to you.

Three techniques to help you get attention of your child.

1. Listening to them
When the child comes to you, you are too busy to listen to them or attend to them. They mirror your behavior when they do not attend to you.

So give them the ear till they share something with you, patiently, attentively and until they are satisfied. Once you do that I assure you, you will see a change too!

2. Communicate
A lot of parents are not talking but ordering, commanding and demanding. You prove that there's no two way communication. When they know that my parents are going to dump things on me, I not listen only at all.

The moment you talk to your child, the technique is to have an open communication. For instance, when you want him to eat, tell them what you want to say and allow them a word.

3. When you talk, ensure it's not negative
When kids are young, they look at parents as someone who gives them motivation, inspiration and love. The moment we go nagging, using words that imply negativity, it forms a negative emotion in the child's mind. And if something negative is coming up, they just give up listening to you.

How do I train my child then? Start with the positives, appreciate what your child is doing rather than pointing what he isn't. Then slowly with a more inspirational method, get into asking them to do something. Not because you want them to do it, but because it's a good idea.

This kind of parenting technique takes a lot of patience, time, understanding, listening and effort, quality time with your children.

When kids want, parents should be around to talk, guide and advise.

I hope this video helps you connect to your child positively with love and with an open mind.

Stay Alive, Stay Fearless.
Dream Big. Stay Strong.

Stay tuned for the next video. Thank you!