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How To Deal With Opinions Effectively

 

Have you ever received an opinion from someone which was unexpected and even a littlenegative or irritating. I sure have and sometimes it get’s difficult to deal with these people… especially if it's from family and friends. Watch the video to deal with opinions effectively.

Opinions if not handled appropriately can lead to arguments, misunderstandings and suffering.

It’s a skill to handle any sort of opinion thrown at you and not be negatively impacted by it nor try to explain yourself to everyone. In this video I have shared my secret formula.

Share this video with people you think get impacted by others opinions easily. Also leave me a comment on what are your views on dealing with opinions.

- Murtaza

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FULL VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

Are you Alive and Fearless?

If not, Why?

Because of people's opinions? I am going to talk about opinions today. Because it's these
opinions that take us down so much; someone saying something bogs us down.

Let me start with a story. It's about the donkey, father and the son. They were walking with
donkey, the father and the son. Comes a group of people with their opinion - why are you not
using the donkey? So the father asks the son to ride on the donkey while he walks along. Soon
follows a second group of people with another opinion - such a bad son, look he's making his
father walk. Well, the son gets down and makes his father ride on the donkey. Guess what
another group gives their opinion - what kind of a father are you to make your son walk so
much? So then both the father and the son get on the donkey.

Wait there's more. So the fourth opinion comes from next group - have you no mercy for the poor animal? How can you both ride the poor donkey? Frustrated the father son duo gets off and picks up the donkey instead. Well, along comes the fifth group with their opinion - how dumb are you to carry the donkey and walk?

The moral of the story is, everyone in life will have an opinion to offer on whatever you do in life whether you move forward or backward, stop doing A or start doing B. What you need to
understand that people have the right to give an opinion. The problem lies when we take the
opinion so seriously that we either fight and argue on the person's opinion or we get so
consumed by it to change our life, processes, belief and thoughts according to opinions. Not
only that our clothes, career, business, et al.

When I wanted to become a Life Coach the entire world gave me an opinion; this is so not
possible, not a full time career and do it on the weekends. If I would have listened to them I
wouldn't be sitting here talking to you and changing thousands of lives via training programs,
online programs, seminars and blog videos.

I appreciate my mentors for teaching me not to take opinions seriously. There are people who
give me feedback and advice because I ask for it. I'm open to taking criticism constructively. Only because you ask for it.

But why get affected, hurt and change your life in people giving advice and opinion that's not
asked for?

So what should I do when people give opinions? Don't say yes. Don't say no. Don't agree. Don't disagree. Opinions are just opinions.

If you don't like what I am wearing, well fine. If you think u should not be doing something, I
understand. I will think about it.

No need to argue or change their perspective. Keep your ears open, listen to the opinion but
don't get affected by it.

People who are important to you and give you opinion like parents and boss, listen. People who are not important, giving you opinions, see if there's any substance.

'I get what you are saying. I will think about it. Thank you for taking time to give me an opinion.'

I get opinions through mail about my life, programs and even these videos. I don't agree, I don't disagree but I do appreciate.

Get over opinions and not being affected by opinions makes you Alive and Fearless. Do
whatever you need to do, don't get affected by opinions. Be respectful and listen to opinions and do what you feel is the right thing to do.

Stay Alive, stay Fearless.
Dream Big, Stay Strong.

Stay tuned for the next video. Thank you for watching.